I was taught growing up to be kind, nice and hardworking. In 2006, I left China and came to the States to pursue my graduate degree in Business, and from day one, I excelled, at least by traditional standards. I received a full M.B.A scholarship, got a great corporate job at a highly reputable company, even during the financial crisis, and settled in the business capital of the world, New York City.

After achieving many of my goals, including making it to the Business Director level, I found that my willpower had reached a ceiling despite having built a positive mindset and regular meditation practice.

The misalignment between what I thought I wanted and who I was becoming got bigger. My mind and body were in constant conflict. At first, I balanced work with hobbies and travel. That helped to distract me from the gnawing feeling that something was missing for a while, but underneath I still felt unfulfilled. In short, life looked good but it didn’t feel good.

After some painful setbacks, I went on a deep journey of self-inquiry without a clear idea of what I was aiming for. The thing that moved the needle for me was engaging in Tantric body-based practices to quiet down the thinking brain and engage my emotions and body.

I discovered that I was barely connected to my body and pleasure. My need for approval from others had concealed my deeper desires and kept me in avoidance of my shadow side. The feelings I had buried or run away from throughout my life were manifesting in my intimate relationships.

I immersed myself in the exploration of my ecstasy as well as my light and dark sides. Now I recognize my eros and shadow are the sources of my power and uniqueness. Today I am living a life that inspires me and fills me up, celebrates my pleasure, gives full permission to my yes and no.

The connection of my mind and body supports me to hold healthy boundaries, allow me to show up compassionately without losing myself, speak up for my desires, and act from the core of who I am. The connection of my sexuality and spirituality expands my intimacy compacity and profoundly enhances my mindfulness.

Along my journey, I witnessed many intelligent people who shared similar struggles and disconnected with their pleasure and body. Our traditional education says little to nothing about sexuality and intimacy, depending on where in the world you live, even though they are so important to our vitality and quality of life.

In order to help others experience their own transformation, I sought trainings with some of the top teachers in Tantra, Taoism, sexuality, power dynamics, and mindset through thousands of hours of study and practice. The joy of my work comes from client-time, coaching men and women to experience self-acceptance, fulfillment, and their true erotic nature.